Married to the Porn!

The truth is nobody really likes to hear the truth.  I, myself don't like to hear the truth, cause the truth can really hurt... why the truth hurts is another topic.

But the truth is that about or should i say almost.... all the male race in this world who are normal human species that has accesses to DVD and TV or a computer with internet access, WE men and some even be women will be watching and wanking to P O R N! 

And that is the TRUTH!

Well... Porn is and can be addicting if people don't watch out, weather it be men or women, in today's society... in this day and age, WE people just do whatever we want as long as it feels good and you know I'm nothing killing or hurting anyone i'm fine.... cause our LUST has taken over the our LOVE.

So i'lll just cut the chase and get to the point!

Porn can be harmful and can really mess you up on your perception of sex with your wife and your MARRIAGE and many other adultery type of junk which can really hurt people.

The reason i want to tackle on this topic is becos it is a problem, and we can't just say that PORN is bad and not really analyze it and talk about it or debate about why this is bad or maybe is not that bad?  So we are not here to judge porn or people who act in them nor the people who watch them... but lets analyze it.


PORN is basically just an ACT, a show,... like Acting in front of a camera, for a movie.

So for example... (not that I done it before, but since I did study film in school and this is how a production should be... i assume) When they make a porno video, regardless how low the budget it is....

they still have to think about ideas, like what kind of sexual act will be hot and be a turn on to the audience.  So you know they will come up with various sexual positions and camera angles etc. .  And also they have think about costumes, color of the lingerie, the hair style, make up, high heels which all there can be a turn on factor etc.

So now they have the set (even the setting got to look a certain way) and the actors & actress ready with the sexy make up etc.  Now, the actress must know how to act... act really "horny" or "slutty" and moan very slowly sexily and loudly (you know... to build up the scene).  That is why there are Porn-Stars becos they really act better lusty/sluttier than the other porn actresses... they don't necessary have to be pretty but attractive.

So basically Porn is a fantasy... you know like sexual fantasy some people dream about and it becomes reality on video.  Like maybe some men would lust being with 2 females or being in an orgy, with a certain race etc. etc.... Its like a FANTASY come true in front of your eyes!

And the whole purpose of the porn industry is to make money off you and to get you HOOK on it like a visual drug.  Just like any other muti-media industry!  Once your hook, you will want more.

The more you watch, the more you lust.
The more you lust, the more you want.
The more you want, the more you get.
The more you get, the more you watch.

So that is the cycle of being additive to something like PORN.

Well.... i have many male friends that feels that there is nothing wrong with watching porn becos they are single, but even the married ones feels that it is normal to watch porn, since there is nothing wrong with it, since it is just me and myself and i and the computer.  And some would say "Well, i'm not hurting anyone and its not like i'm sleeping around with some other woman!" etc. etc.

So this is the honest truth.  Most men and some women think there is nothing harmful with Porn.

But when we really look at it closely, I personally think Porn can really hurt a loving couple's marriage.  I read it in the papers with movie stars or just someone famous married to beautiful wives being sex addicts or married couple divorce becos husband rather wank to porno. So there is alot of sad breaks up in marriages becos of being addictive to porn.

First of all, if you LOVE your wife and respect her with all your heart and mind and soul and spirit, wouldn't you rather be making love to your real human precious wife rather then wanking off from a fake fantasy that will only make you lust more!

Another example... pretend or if you are married....what if you keep on wanking to the same porn star becos this girl just always turns you on and gets you off... So your thinking, well I'm not hurting anyone, i still love my wife.  Then one day at work a new girl comes in and she look almost like the porn star that you always love to wank off to... And now, the lust will start and slowly your wet dream will be true. Then adultery begins.... and that leads to fights with wife and slowly a divorce and sometimes it could even lead to murder. 

One more example, what if one day your watching the porn and you stumble into a video that stars someone you know.... what if it is your MOM?  What if it is your daughter?  What if it is your girlfriend???  etc... that can be pretty mess up and hurting!






So being a broken man.... who believes in LOVE (not that I am perfect that i don't stumble)... but I do wish to see that married couple grow old in love till they die.

Here is some silly ways that I have try to think up for married couple to do.

1)  Love each other.... (not the most creative, but this is the basic)

 (Soften your heart and FORGIVE and LOVE! Remember why you guys first got married???)


2)  Still have Romance with one another!  Go out with each other... like dating!  Go to Disneyland!  Surprise each other with fun things that each other likes, but not all the time till the point your sick of it.  Be creative with romance...  Growing older in age doesn't mean we all got to be old and boring and just go to work and wait for dinner time and stuff....


(la La laaaa LAAOOOVVVEEEEEEEE!)


3)  Be attractive for each other!  You know, I have seen some sexy couples get married and after 3 years later or so, they just look like all FAT and like out of it and no one cares!   Don't be like that!  You got to look good for your wife and for your husband!!!   And being atrrative, your whole doing so is becos you LOVE each other!   Growing old doesn't mean you got tobe all unattractive.!!! GEE WIZZZZ

3a)  Also one very important thing!  Don't make each other JEALOUS... don't be all flirty with the opposite sex other than with your own wife or your own husband!!!  This is the worst feeling of all.........Respect each other with LOVE!


(This a film by Jean-Luc Godard... this is love with a Robot, a robot who became alive and finally understands love...)


4) Okay.... i think this is the last long thing.  SEX!  Well... since now you all kind of know how a PORNO is made, married couples should be each other's  PORN star.  That's right, start buying sexy lingerie, make up, role play, mini skirts, high heels and start acting out your fantasy. ... enjoy your sex since now you are MARRIED couples that is your advantage and privilege.  BUT remember!  Husband, you must ask for your wife's permission if role play is possible.  RESPECT one another.  Ultimately Make beautiful LOVE To each other as ONE! For you guys are IN LOVE!



5) If you really want a PERFECT marriage, there is none and that is the truth.  But there are beautiful marriages, i have seen them.  I have seen old couples holding hands walking at night and that is a good sign for marriage.  Or maybe that could of been her son that looked old...hahaha


(Another Jean-Luc Godard film and is wonderful!)

But seriously... with God and the words of God, couples that become selfless toward each other and care for one another, LOVE will grow & stay.

Marriage should grow like a tree.

Wrap around each other.

Growing old together!

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